When people date they usually share a common objective – they hope to win over the object of their affection. They therefore want to give a favourable impression of themselves.
Hopefully, they will also bring out the best in their date.
Now, what about dating rules today? The following account is a perspective on 1950′s dating from a couple who have been married for over forty years, and some words about the rules for men and women today.
The fact that you have read this far indicates that you want to know how to behave properly on your date so that you can practice good dating etiquette; a good start!
In one of the Seinfeld episodes, a characters’ tell that someone was worth dating was if said date leaned over to open the car door for the person driving — before they had a chance to get their keys out and open the door themselves.
I thought it was cute at the time, but that’s never been my tell. Mine has more to do with when someone is at their worst. An easy one is if someone is sick, but there’s a wide range of behaviors that fit the bill: like the guy who never returned my calls after I told him I had to leave town to attend my fathers’ funeral. Pretty obvious that one, but you get my drift.
Fifty years ago, men and women had well-defined roles in American society. In most households, the wife stayed home to care for the house and the children, and the husband went off to work. Men were the providers and leaders. Women were the helpers and followers. For many couples, this arrangement was a challenge. Women who actually wanted to work had few job choices; traditional roles often kept them from accomplishing what they were truly capable of. Then men, busy with work and other responsibilities, missed out on much of their children’s lives.
Do not expect your prospect to be available for a date at short notice
Ask a few days in advance of the proposed date
Set a meeting time and if possible an ending time
If the person cannot or will not be available for a date at the second request – they are not interested
Don’t push the issue. Move on!